The internet was shattered because a father-to-be wanted to leave his pregnant wife to visit his grandfather before he passed away.
Posted to RedditOn the popular forum r/AmITheA**hole, a man with the anonymous username u/Visible_Letter_9093 shared his story to get feedback from the “AITA” community. The viral post has more than 6,000 upvotes and 800 comments.
“My wife is very close to giving birth, and we are both very excited to welcome our baby girl into this world,” the user began, “The problem, however, is the fact that my 92-year-old grandfather is ill. And most likely it will.” die in the next week or so. He’s been one of the kindest, nicest, coolest people I’ve ever met, and he was so helpful in raising me, so I want to fly over there in a couple of days to say goodbye to her and attend her funeral.”
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His wife argued that seeing her grandfather is not as important as witnessing the birth of their daughter if she went into labor while he was away. He understands that being there for his wife is important, but he was caught in a bind.
In some updates made to the post, the original poster (OP) revealed that he and his wife reached an engagement. He decided that he was going to drive to his grandfather’s hometown to say goodbye to him and then drive back home. While he was gone, family and friends stayed with his wife. In his final emotional talk with his grandfather, the OP asked him to choose the name of his daughter.
The father-to-be will be on Zoom so he can attend the funeral.
news week has reached out to u/Visible_Letter_9093 for comment.
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- Denial: Disbelief of what you are going through.
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Redditors took the comments for discussion.
“[No a**holes here]. Don’t wait a couple of days. Fly there now, visit him while he’s well enough to recognize you, and fly straight home. Don’t stay for the funeral. Life is more important than death. You have a baby on the way; people will get it (and those who won’t aren’t worth your time),” u/SamSpayedPI wrote with the top comment of over 12,000 upvotes.
U/peithcelt said: “[No a**holes here]but call your grandfather, talk to him on the phone… You have a lifetime of memories with your grandfather, you will NEVER have another chance to support your wife through the birth of this child, or keep this child in the first hours of life”.
“Sorry but [you’re the a**hole]. I empathize with your situation. I just lost my grandmother. I have also given birth. Your wife needs you for her support. It’s not about seeing the baby being born, it’s about being there for his wife during a life-threatening medical event. Given how wonderful your grandfather is, I’m sure he would understand,” she wrote u/fauxrain.
“Smooth [you’re the a**hole] because it’s not about being there for the baby, it’s about being there for your wife as she gives birth. It is being her support and her advocate if she needs it. If God wants something to go wrong, you’re the one making the big decisions,” she told u/bunnybunny690.